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Don’t Feed the Trolls

“Don’t feed the trolls.”

“Don’t talk back. It’s what they want.” 

Is that really true? Does ignoring trolls actually stop the trolling? 

Does anyone have real true statistics and numbers on that advice? 

I’ve ignored a lot more trolls than I’ve acknowledged but for some reason, that does not seem to have any influence on the amount of disgustung, hateful messages that arrive  in my inbox on the daily. 

When I speak my mind, I usually receive a tsunami of  hate or absolutely nothing. It seems like the more direct my blogs are, the more troll-age I receive.  My favorite response from others is, “If you can’t handle it, get off the internet.” 

But my response to that is, “why do people tolerate this and do absolutely nothing?” 

Why should I have to rearrange my life, live in fear, change careers, move, change my phone number just because some narcissist decided he thinks I’m ugly because I refused to date him?

The most common advice I hear is, “Just don’t read the comments.” 

Um yeah okay. These trolls have already published my photos, phone numbers and addresses (home and work) online. Is anyone aware that this is a harassment tactic known as “doxing?” 

I’ve even had fake sex, dating and escort ads created using my phone number, address, and photos which resulted in creepy men showing up at my front door.  But ignore it right? Because that’s not dangerous or anything.

It’s one thing to post an opinion online. Everyone is entitled to an opinion but threats, harassment and stalking are REAL criminal offenses and law enforcement should be involved. Most law enforcement rely on the laws in order to determine whether or not cyber trolls are committing criminal offenses but most law enforcement officers do not know how to deal with online harassment anyway and that is why I recommend consulting an attorney. 

In my situation, things became tricky when we discovered that the majority of my stalkers and harassers lived in a different state. This complicated things greatly because then you have to rely on state laws to uphold restraining/protective orders and determine if criminal charges can be filed. Luckily, I live in a state that recognizes cyber harassment and stalking as a criminal offense. 

There are also federal laws in place but there are improvements that need to be made within each state so that all states are on the same page. Otherwise, state law enforcement must wait for federal law enforcement to step in. The worst part about this is that the victim or target (which is the term I prefer) must initiate this process beginning with requesting a personal protective order (or restraining order) after filing a police report with their local law enforcement. I recommend contacting your local domestic violence agency to help guide you in the process (especially if you know your stalker/troll/harasser and especially if there were threats made to you or your family members. 

Social media companies advise you to report abuse but it is a tedious, time consuming process and most reports are rejected. Do it anyway and keep records of EVERYTHING. Not just screen shots. Keep copies of the actual links. They also tell you to block the offending parties but we all know that trolls have more than one account and the can and will just make new accounts and start all over again.

I’d just like to know why people accept this behavior and do absolutely nothing about it but say, “well… that’s just part of being online.” 

Seriously?!? I guess we should all just accept rape, theft, murder, etc because it’s just part of being human?!? Ummm nope. Wrong answer. 

Why don’t we hold people accountable for their actions? I think that would be a great start. If we stop tolerating unacceptable and abusive behavior, it WILL decrease I’m sure. 

Laws need to change so that law enforcement CAN do something about it. Most people who engage in trolling behavior, do it from anonymous or fake accounts so let’s start exposing their arses whenever we can! Most trolls would NEVER do or say the things they do if their identity was known. 

But we can’t change something if everyone ignores it and hopes that it will go away.

This quote comes to mind: 

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. ” ~Edmund Burke

You can choose to ignore problems or pretend they don’t exist because they haven’t happened to you or someone you care about BUT… in the meantime, you and everyone you love is at risk if you’re reading this. Because it can happen to ANYONE FOR ANY REASON. Just because you exist. If you think it isn’t a big deal, then good for you. That means you are absolutely 100% agreeable to ANY and EVERY piece of personal information of yours and anyone you’ve ever loved being posted across the internet for the world to see. Before you respond with, “I don’t care. I have nothing to hide.” Just remember that trolls don’t care about the TRUTH! So if you’re okay with being accused of ridulous, horrific things that you’ve never even heard of…for anyone and everyone to see and never to be removed from the world’s view….  or you’re fine with someone anonymously threatening to rape your children, then by all means …. let me applaud you for your balls of steal and ability to afford 24/7 bodyguards for you and your loved ones and while I’m at it …. let me applaud you with a huge CONGRATS for being in a position where you will never need to rely on your reputation to get a job, loan, a business or anything else in life. Because the internet DOES affect REAL LIVES. 

Dear Grammar Challenged”Anonymous” Stalker 

Dear “Anonymous”poster of hateful lies on a FAKE dating complaints ad titled Cindie Harper Femme Force,
The very first time we were ever in the same room together was in a court room and you were issued a restraining order for stalking and harassing me to include threats of bodily injury and death. There are court documents to prove this.
You took the time to write this false, uncalled-for post which is nothing short of sadistic. Your tone is saccharine and condescending, but the detail in which you express your disapproval of my very existence is disturbing. The only possible objective for writing it is to try and hurt me.
For a few moments, it worked. You awakened an old fear that every woman who was ever an awkward teenage girl has had. It doesn’t matter how funny, witty, kind, loyal, determined or successful I am.
I like the way I look. I don’t look like Adriana Lima and that’s fine – I look like me, and I like myself. I don’t care if you find me attractive or not. You’re not my type. It would never work out.
You may think that I look old or I look like a man in all of my pictures but they’re me. Again, your approval isn’t needed. You’re not my type. It would never work out.

I would describe myself as someone who likes to laugh, loves traveling, paranormal research and problem solving. I like to think I come across as a confident, optimistic woman with a good sense of humor. But could this be the very reason you have targeted me? Did you see me and think “Wow, she thinks far too highly of herself? How dare she appear to be happy and confident? I need to bring her down a notch or two?” Or did you accept someone else’s opinion of me and call it your own like you do in all other aspects of your life?
I can tell that your cruel, hateful behavior and personal attacks on others have helped you to get where you are today because most people avoid hateful people who create drama and hostility the way you do. Your childhood must’ve been abusive and lonely. For that, I am truly sorry. No child should be abused, unwanted or unloved.
The internet is a dangerous place to be a woman with opinions, especially if another woman feels intimidated by you. I learned this first hand when I refused to entertain your obnoxious, immature personal attacks toward me on twitter or your childish tantrums when I refused to allow you to appear on my show. Not everyone is intimidated by you or your hideous persona.
Everyone who witnesses your personal attacks on me expresses shock, horror, and embarrassment on your behalf. Some people even express a desire to cause you actual physical harm. A few people even felt the need to defend me by demeaning and humiliating you in my defense. You see, I already KNOW that I’m not in my twenties and I am not perfect.

In fact, I can tell you exactly how flawed and imperfect I am. I find a new flaw or two every day. Does that mean that I need to hate myself and attack everyone else because I’m not perfect? Nope and you shouldn’t either.
I’d be happy and grateful if I never saw or heard from you again but I couldn’t possibly be that lucky. I’m sure you will feel the need to respond using some randomly anonymous name. Please don’t. There’s nothing you can say that will make me think that you’re not a disgrace to the human race, but especially the female species.
The real reason for my public response to your ongoing public harassment and what truly concerns me, is the fact that you will be working with teenagers within the community and that you will have access to children.
I want you to encourage people (especially children) to love themselves and accept their flaws and imperfections. Be an example of an adult who accepts herself and others for their intellect and creativity. Encourage others to be fearless. Sadly, your ego and personality won’t allow that to happen because you only know how to control people by making them fear you or by making them feel insecure. Is that why you hate me so much? Because I don’t want or need your approval and you certainly don’t intimidate me. In fact, I don’t even find you entertaining. Disgusting is a more appropriate term to describe you.
It sickens me to think that your hateful, humiliating, sadistic and narcissistic personality will have access to impressionable children. I cannot imagine the harm that you will cause to impressionable, insecure children whom you deem “ugly, looking like a tranny, a slut, homosexual, stupid, or fat” or any of the other various hateful descriptions that you have used toward others (especially me) during one of your many online personal attacks, psychotic episodes or temper tantrums.
If you’re going to be working with children, you should be thinking of how you can help them to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if and when the time comes that they have the unfortunate experience of becoming the target of a hateful, narcissistic, unhappy bully like yourself, they can respond as I do now.




P.S. “Pretended travel blogger?” That’s creepy. Do you follow me everywhere or just on all social media?
P.P.S. Considering you’re probably dating a married man, you’re in no position to judge whether or not I can keep a man or a marriage, you’re ignorant and you’re not a celebrity

And here are the links that you posted on  different sites to try and humiliate me with RIDICULOUS LIES and hateful things …. yet again. (I do believe we are in the hundreds now and you’re still going strong). Stop trying to troll yourself and your little “gang” that creates blacklists and then blame it on me. Intelligent people who know me, know that I truly don’t care what you and your black list makers are doing. You’ve already admitted to numerous people that you troll yourself to stay relevant and play victim.

Here you go, here are the links that you recently posted because YOU got trolled (which everyone knows was you -yourself). If you look at your response on your own ads, you made them the same day they were posted. I’m so used to you doing this sort of thing that it took me a few days to realize that you posted BS about me yet again. Even though everyone knows who does or doesn’t belong in there.

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